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Lesbian Dating and Body Language
Did you know that nonverbal communication accounts for at least 93% of the impact of our communication? According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, an expert in nonverbal communication, words account for only 7%. The other 93% is made up of pace, pitch and tone of voice (38%) and facial expressions (55%). It’s been proven time and again that body language is VERY important.
With that in said, try to keep these tips in mind when you’re on your next date:
- Keep good eye contact with your date. You’ve probably already heard this one but it is sometimes easier said than done, especially if you are nervous. When talking to your date, try to maintain eye contact. Don’t stare at her constantly but make a conscious effort to look into her eyes (about 70 percent of the time is a good rule of thumb). Try to be natural.
- One of the more overlooked pieces of body language dating advice - stand up straight! This communicates that you are confident and healthy.
- Remember to smile. A great big honest smile shows your date that you are friendly, fun and, most importantly, comfortable around new women. Some people smile more naturally than others. If you don’t consider yourself a “smiler”, practice smiling a little bit. You’ll probably be surprised at how many people smile back.
- In certain situations, opening your palms and facing them upwards while you speak can gain your date’s trust. This subconsciously tells your date that you are being honest. You can use this to defend yourself against an accusation or simply to make a point about yourself. Remember to smile along with this gesture too.
- Avoid fidgeting, nail biting, tracing invisible lines in the table, or any sort of compulsive gesture that you may do to combat discomfort or nervousness. Try to keep your hands in your lap (if you are sitting) or straight down at your sides (if you are standing). This conveys a sense that you are at ease with yourself and others. And confidence is a major attractive quality that women seek out when looking for a new romantic partner.
- Don’t be afraid of moments of silence in your conversation. Most people try to fill silence as soon as possible. Realize that it’s ok. Take a moment to just enjoy the moment.
These are just a few nuggets of body language dating tips for lesbians. Remember that nonverbal communication is just as, if not more, important than verbal communication . . . especially on a first date!
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